MARRIAGE VERSUS LIVING TOGETHER

MARRIAGE VERSUS LIVING TOGETHER

 

      So which would you chose marriage or living together? You may ask same question again and if you do you may find it an exaggerating windmill experience that goes on and on without ending. In our modern times living together is an acceptable fashion in almost all country around the world and pre-marital sex is not an issue at all. In our modern times marriage happens less and less in every country.

      Feminist would say that marriage is just a piece of paper that you can never really count on it in times of trouble and husband and wife are merely just fooling each other and in times of desperation they may separate and so the holiness of marriage are wasted. They say that you can throw away the paper down the drain and put the blame on yourself why you put yourself behind bars in the matrimony of marriage. They prefer to enjoy life as it is living together so there is no need to rush and there will be no commitment involve if they decide to separate.

      This modern time has taught people even children to play the card in their favor of safety privileged circumstances of choice that is flexible enough to choose that you can always change your decision if you decide that you simply want the relationship to end whenever and wherever. One teenager in U.S. at the age of 17 simply says that she’s been living with her boyfriend for the last two years and they were glad. And if she decided to leave without his boyfriend’s approval she can do so.  

      Nowadays it is so common to live together in America, Europe, and Scandinavia even in the most conservative region in Asia have been involve accepting in this condition. There are numerous answers why this things happen but mostly it is within the welfare or self worth and gratification, but isn’t it important to honor the decency of a family within marriage? Or what happen to the children who were born with parents who never married? I wonder if there is even involvement of love in living together or they are just merely playing the game of lust or testing the water.  

      People living together usually are confuse and uncertain about their partner, they usually find themselves living together mostly because of loneliness, physical needs or rebellion against society not necessarily believing in its principle. Isn’t God important inside their relationship? Of course feminist will surely reject the biblical principle because either men or women wanted their freedom in they decide to end their game.

      Break up and unfaithfulness of both partners almost always happen in this kind of relationship torn apart, but at least they enjoyed it so there’s no regret in doing it just a happy ride. This is not misleading or misjudging the consequence nor abrupt but isn’t it that family can work together as one if they live together in harmony and love that strengthen them together to hold their relationship at peace knowing that they are united by God and his holiness? Living together is trying to reinvent the formula designed by God and people fail miserably.

      On the other hand married couple who really love each other who have faith in God will follow his instructions. They can withstand all the trials that come in their way; they will build lasting foundation and memories together with their children. Of course there will be problems that will surely come their way, they may even part ways in the end but love will find its way to make the relationship work and if ‘it’s not, then they still have a legal entity in the eyes of the public and an opportunity to bring back the memory of the past, but this never usually happen in marriage as long as there is love and you can see that love remains even in the latter part of a married life.  

      Genesis 2:24 says “for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh”. And Malachi 2:15 supported it with this words; “Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union so guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth”.  Of course all this can happen inside marriage, there is no replacement in the design of the bibles guide which is universal it reaches across boundaries, culture, status in life to seek marriage before living together and this is a more stable principles than imposed by men by living together.

 

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